From books on the power of motherhood to the power of friendships, these reads are a must or your library.
Let’s not even sugarcoat it – motherhood is a stressful and sometimes even a thankless job. Creating and being responsible for another human being does not come with a manual and even the best SugaMamas are just trying to figure it out. But even with all the heaviness, motherhood is also one of the most fun, rewarding and fulfilling journeys you will ever embark on.
From pregnancy and spit up to graduations and beyond, motherhood is a unique club where members are constantly trying to find the balance between it all. This week on The Suga podcast, Tika and Thai discuss the journey of confident Black children and finding the balance between the heaviness and joy of life and motherhood. Their guest, journalist and author Dani McClain, joins them in the discussion and together they attempt to unpack the layers of our power and what it means to be a mother today on their terms. Throughout the episode they drop gems share how powerful books on motherhood and friendship are helping them to find and understand the blessings in the journey.
From Dani McClain’s book on the power of motherhood to classic reads on the power of friendship, these amazing books by Black authors are a must in the library of any SugaMama searching for the balance and looking for ways to find joy in their own motherhood adventure.
We Live for the We: The Political Power of Motherhood
We already know that motherhood, and parenthood in general, does not come with a handbook. But even if it did, it probably wouldn’t contain advice on the nuances that Black mothers in particular have to face – that’s where Dani McClain comes in. In her book, We Live for the We, she sets out to understand how to raise her daughter in what she, as a Black woman, knows to be an unjust — even hostile — society. We Live for the We speaks to mothers of all backgrounds who grapple with similar questions and gets their advice, so that together we can imagine the society we build for the next generation.
Confessions of a Domestic Failure: A Humorous Book About a not so Perfect Mom
One of SugaMama Tika’s favorite books, Confessions of a Domestic Failure is a novel that gives readers a hilarious, but realistic look at motherhood. The book follows career girl turned stay-at-home mom who is trying to navigate the world of Pinterest-perfect, Facebook-fantastic and Instagram-impressive moms…but is failing miserably. As you go through Confessions of a Domestic Failure sharing laughs and tears, both you and Ashley will learn that there’s no way to be a perfect mom, but you will still be a great one.
The Mocha Manual to a Fabulous Pregnancy
When you’re preparing to bring your mini into the world there are so many questions, especially as a Black woman. One of the books that helped Thai calm her SuaaMama to be nerves and answered many of her questions was The Mocha Manual to a Fabulous Pregnancy. Don’t let the title fool you, this book is not full of fluff. Author Kimberly Seals-Allers offers candid advice on specific health concerns affecting Black women such as high blood pressure, diabetes and low birth weight, as well as information about how to get your finances in order, how to cope with embarrassing pigmentation, hair texture changes and more. By the end of the book you’ll be well on your way to a fabulous pregnancy of your own.
Life is nothing without your girlfriends by your side. Our friendships often carry us from childhood to womanhood and through important moments in our lives, including motherhood. One of the books that captures the true depths and nuances of friendships is the late, great author Toni Morrison’s classic, Sula. The novel tells the story of Nel Wright and Sula Peace, two girls with a fierce devotion to each other that endures as they grow into women, but is tested by an unforgivable betrayal.
The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love
As SugaMamas the love and attention is usually on us, but the men in our lives need to be loved too. In The Will to Change, author bell hooks gets to the heart of the matter and shows men- and women – how to express the emotions that are a fundamental part of who they are. The book addresses the most common concerns of men, such as fear of intimacy and loss of their patriarchal place in society. She also challenges men in new ways and believes that they can find the way to spiritual unity by getting back in touch with the emotionally open part of themselves. The Will to Change is a great book to read with the special men in your life and will help you both find and embrace joy.